Kindergarten Kindness is a year-long theme
It matters to consciously develop Social Emotional Skills (SEL) through positive discipline, growth mindset language, and joyful responsive teaching! As caring educators, this is our contribution to healthier schools and healthier communities. We can—and must—bond with our students, teach them to work hard and be kind, and build healthy behaviors and thinking patterns for success in school—and life!
For over three decades Nellie Edge Seminars has focused on building Emotional Intelligence through carefully chosen language, empowering curriculum, and joyful pathways to literacy. We have studied and documented the work of accomplished teachers. Here are a few articles from our my 2015 manuscript Emotional Intelligence Matters: All Children Thrive in Joyful, Empowering Learning Communities! Available on TPT in 2021.

Before you speak,
Think and be smart.
It’s hard to fix
A wrinkled heart!
Award-winning kindergarten colleague Jacque Verrall, NBCT, has written extensively on positive discipline and the value of dramatic play in kindergarten, and I share some of her writing with permission.
- Discipline Is the Absolute Hardest Part of Teaching: Why I Use Positive Discipline
- Wrinkled Heart Lesson
Jacque writes, Never do anything for a child that they are perfectly capable of doing themselves. When you do, you rob them of the opportunity to feel competent. Feeling competent builds self-esteem.
Use Conscious Discipline and create responsive classrooms.

We continue to be inspired by the insightful work of Dr. Becky Bailey, which is documented on her blog, Conscious Discipline, and her latest book: Conscious Discipline Building Resilient Classrooms Expanded & Updated Edition. We highly recommend to all educators her PBS video Shifting from Fear to Love and the Becoming the Best You Can Be webinar.
How do we teach to build social skills and a love of learning?

We like to follow the insightful blogs of Sally Haughey at fairydustteaching.com and especially appreciate the September 20, 2015 blog The Peace Table about conflict resolution in her classroom. She writes, “One of the best gifts from Montessori education has to be the concept of the Peace Table… a conflict resolution tool for the classroom. Traditionally, there is a peace rose that the children can present to a child they have a conflict with and ‘go’ to the table to work it out.”
Read and ponder how we talk to children.

Peter Johnston’s book, Choice Words: How Oral Language Affects Children’s Learning (Stenhouse, 2004), further illuminates how our words can change children’s lives and how thoughtful language develops a growth mindset. This is still one of my favorite SEL resources!
A Mindset for Learning: Teaching the Traits of Joyful, Independent Growth by Kristi Mraz and Christine Hertz (Heinemann, 2015) is another helpful resource for building positive learning communities and promoting a growth mindset. The authors show how to develop empathy, optimism, and flexibility alongside traditional academic skills.
Poetry “I Can Read” Notebook Bundle:
Bonus 2
Discover Poems, Songs, and Rhymes That Develop Oral Language and SEL Skills: Emotional Intelligence, Friendship, Growth Mindset, and a Love of Learning (K-2)
Poems, songs, and rhymes are listed by Poetry Notebook Collection Titles